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Why
me God, why me??
To
understand the answer to this question, we must first begin to
understand the third word in that question, God, who and what He is
in our own minds and hearts. For us who are addicted to something,
(that covers about half the worlds population, [the other half just
does not know it yet,])
that
is a tall order, because we had a god that we understood very well,
our addiction. It's not that we are stupid, it's just that we don't
see it that way, why try to understand something that we didn't even
credit with existence?
In
all the time I practiced my addiction, the hardest thing for me to
accept was the fact that I had a problem. Although others tried to
point it out to me on many occasions, I just could not see it. The
paradigm in which I existed did not allow for such a revelation. So,
as a result, I continued in my behaviors while thinking that there
was something wrong with the people around me, how could they say I
had a problem when as I readily knew no such problem existed.
In
any recovery program worth it's salt, it is said to alter the fact
that there is a problem, you must admit that the problem exists. Now
how do you accomplish that when you know with every fiber of your
being that there is no such problem?
You
then, for the sake of your own sanity, after being told over and over
that you did not get into that particular program because of
“Eating
green beans and ice cream”, or that your resistance to the truth
(also called denial) is evidence that you need the help”,
appear
to accept that help
so they will just let you be?
But
is this acquiescence the true surrender that is needed to effect the
change we needed in our lives in order to feel worthwhile?
I
am sorry to be the one to tell you, but
no it is not!
The
reason I say this is because of one simple fact that we don't often
look at, and that is who is saying it, we are, and we are the
ones who got ourselves into the hole we are trying to dig ourselves
out of. And, weather you choose to recognize the fact or not, within
the framework of the behaviors that got us to this point we
developed, nurtured, and practiced the ability to lie and manipulate
our surroundings which included family, friends, loved ones, hated
ones, and ones we didn't even know. But, the ones we lied to and
manipulated the most was ourselves, to the point of beginning to
believe ourselves, ergo, the cycle continues. Now how do you tell
when the addict is telling a lie, that part is simple, the addicts
lips are moving.
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